While I tend to share my life every single day.. I’ve realized that I’ve never really written a post or talked about my “Glass Half-Full” Attitude toward life. With all that’s going on in the world right now I’ve had many of you notice and mention that I always seem to be positive/happy. It hasn’t always been that way so I figure that now is as good a time as any to share what it is that keeps me going and feeling good each and every day.
Many of you know how open and honest I am with all of you when it comes to my personal life.. I’ve shared everything from how I met Jeff to our infertility struggles and even my recent difficult explant surgery. As a result I’ve received many messages from you asking how I stay so positive and truly happy each day in both IG stories & my blog posts. Even throughout the hardships that we’ve endured throughout our lives.. I find that I try to keep my chin up and stay positive every day. Where does this come from and how do I manage to do it?
After being asked this so many times I’ve decided to write a quick post sharing what I do to keep a positive attitude throughout my marriage, my life as a mom, through work and more.
In my early twenties, immediately after marrying Jeff I hit a wall. While I was happy to finally be married I felt extremely overwhelmed. We had just moved to a new city away from my family and friends, I disliked my job immensely (I was a travel agent) and then Jeff’s dad passed away. If that wasn’t enough, we also learned that we would have to go through IVF to have a baby. This time period was extremely hard for me to say the least and I was constantly battling feeling down and depressed.
Thankfully I had Jeff who looks at things with a “glass half-full” attitude. I’ve always considered myself a positive person but for some reason I wasn’t able to lift myself up during this time. He talked me through so much and had me take a deep hard look within myself. Jeff’s a very introspective guy but also a take charge kind of person. It’s all about moving forward for him and I love that. He listened then had me look inwardly at each issue to see what I needed to do to manage things and look at everything in a different light. He would say that it’s in my control and that helped me so much! Mind over matter as they say.
Because of this advice I’ve been able to get through some really difficult challenges in my life – going through InVitro 3 times, the loss of my dad, and my mom going through breast cancer twice.
Here are 3 things that work for me whenever I’m feeling down that help me remain positive and happy throughout challenging times & keep my “glass half-full” attitude..
- Do something, anything, that you can start & finish in one sitting – Whether it’s making your bed, organizing your room, going for a run, trying a new recipe. Try to do something that allows you to sit back and say, “Yay! I accomplished that.” You’ll be surprised at how something as simple as a start and finish project can make you feel so much stronger.
- Look at everything as a blessing –
this advice is tougher because it’s easier said than done. Rather than looking at what I don’t have or what I’ve lost, I try instead to look at what I’ve gained from the experience or what I do have. When I lost my dad, the one way I was able to work through my grief and sadness was to think of all the moments that I had with him that were special and meaningful. He was always such a happy person. Throughout everything in life, he was positive. I remember always asking him how he never worried and he would constantly tell me that he didn’t want to concentrate on things he couldn’t control. “You have to learn to let things go and move on, Kris.” He said this to me ALL the time!! I can’t tell you how much hearing this over and over again has helped me. Jeff is also similar in his approach to life and worries. Believe it or not.. that simplistic approach works if you keep repeating it to yourself.
- Take time every day for a little self-care/evaluation –
of course this can mean different things for different people but I think it’s important that we take 10 minutes out of our day to relax and look inwardly. If you’re mad, sad, glad – why are you feeling that way? Writing my thoughts down, meditating or phoning a friend helps so much. Giving your feelings credit makes a huge difference in how you look at things and allows you the opportunity to turn things around so that you don’t feel overwhelmed. I like to call this my daily self-check. :)
Simple things I do daily to help my mood:
- Take Vitamins – I take Vitamin D3, Fish Oil and a multi-vitamin every day to help my mood & body (recommended for me by my doctor). This is just an example of things that I need. You need to find what works best for you.
- Create a schedule – This helps so much! Just by keeping a schedule & making weekly/daily to-do lists helps me stay organized and not feeling overwhelmed.
- Getting Enough Sleep – This is a struggle for me but one I find that’s so important. I’m a night-owl at heart but getting the right amount of sleep helps me approach each day more positively. It’s amazing how much mood is determined on sleep.
- Workout – This can mean anything! I like to walk with friends during the mornings, ride my peloton or even take a yoga class online. Doing something for your body helps your mind. It also just makes you feel successful no matter how much sweat is involved. You’ve started and ended something that’s good for you.. It’s a win win!
- Watch Youtube Videos – What I mean by this is I love to watch people clean/organize/eat healthy/etc. Their positivity and their ways of accomplishing tasks is contagious and in turn always makes me motivated and happier! Click here and here for two of my favorite accounts.
- Gardening – Gardening is so rewarding. Planting something and watching it grow makes me so happy. It can be something tiny that I’ve planted in a pot or a huge rose garden.. it doesn’t matter. There is just something so satisfying about helping something live and become it’s best.. gardening lifts my spirits. I dare you to give it a try. ;) If gardening isn’t your thing, try performing a hobby a few times a week that allows you to feel satisfaction and gives you the time to destress and forget your worries.
Most importantly, when it comes to approaching my every day mood I find that it’s really helpful to remember what Jeff and my dad have said about baby steps. Not everything has to be accomplished in a day and it’s the small steps toward accomplishing anything that help you get to where you want to be. In mood, work and life. Not every day is going to be perfect and while we may think that others are happy and totally together all the time, I guarantee you that they’re going through their own set of challenges and struggles too. It’s these reminders that help me keep moving forward and looking at life with a “glass half-full” attitude every day.
Sending you love and happiness today!
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