The story of how I met my husband, Jeff is both hilarious and sweet. I’m so thankful for both time and fate because if it weren’t for the two…
we would have never met.
The pre Jeff line up of events had to occur in order for us to meet.
A few facts… I grew up on the East Coast and went to college there as well.
During this time, my younger sister, Betsy (above) was at school at USC in Los Angeles.
Our story begins during my sophomore year of college when I was visiting my sister at USC during my Spring break. While at lunch one day I happened to spot a gorgeous guy from across the campus and immediately pointed him out to Betsy and her girlfriends. My sister nonchalantly said, “Oh..that guy is some athlete. He is training for the Olympics or something..” All I remember is jumping up to grab another soda just so I could stand next to him while he was getting a refill. I remember trying to act all calm, cool and collected while standing next to him but none of that really mattered… he never gave me a second glance. lol
The cute guy in question (Doug)
Two weeks after my trip my sister called me at school and said, “Hey, do you remember that guy you thought was so cute? I was working the Madonna concert the other night (for her Sorority I think) and he came backstage and introduced himself to me. He asked me out!”
(This was right around the time Madonna began to get popular..
It was Spring of 1984)
It took me a minute to register what she was saying…
I then said, “Wait a minute! My guy asked you out?” LOL!
(Funny because I had a boyfriend in college at the time…
in my defense, I was just looking and he was very cute)
Betsy & Doug
Fast forward two years… Betsy and Doug (the cute guy in question) are now officially boyfriend/girlfriend.
During my Senior year of college I returned to LA for my last Spring Break to watch Doug at a big track meet with my family. He was training for the Olympic Trials (pole vaulting for track and field) and my parents had just moved to Santa Barbara… All was right in the world! I loved California.
As I was sitting in the stands watching him I couldn’t help but notice another guy standing on the field recording Doug jumping.
Mind you.. I still had a boyfriend back East.
I turned to Betsy and asked, “Who is that cute guy recording Doug?”.
I had a thing for cute California guys I guess..
She said, “That is one of Doug’s four brothers!”
My family and I the day I met Jeff.. (The hair..so 80’s!)
Jeff when I met him..
Four brothers?! I couldn’t believe Doug had four brothers and my sister had never told me until that very moment. At this point in time they had been dating for two years…
***Before I go any further in my story I have to disclose that my BF back at school and I had been dating for 3+ years and I cared a great deal for him. That being said… as is often the case with college relationships,
both he and I were outgrowing one another.
We adored each other but I think it was obvious… at least it was to me at the time that we weren’t meant to be together forever. During this Spring Break, after noticing Jeff… I knew I needed to break up with my bf once I returned to school. I cared for him far too much to not break up with him if that makes any sense. I have to be honest however, it took me a couple of months to go through with it once I got back. I felt horrible but I did it.***
Back to the meet…
While my family and I were watching all the Olympians work out ( Jackie Joyner Kersee, Carl Lewis, etc.) Doug walked over to us during a break. It was then that Betsy mentioned that I had noticed Jeff and was dying to meet him. Doug’s respose? “Ohhhhhh no.. Nooooo way are you meeting Jeff!”
He was adamant for a couple of reasons…
A. I had a boyfriend. True. I had not broken up with my boyfriend as of that moment but in my defense all I wanted to do was meet Jeff and say hello. ;)
Then he said there was no way Jeff would ever be interested in me. Ha!
B. He said it would be weird for two brothers from one family to date two sisters from another family… It sounded too much like a Lifetime movie. Alright… I’ll give him that but I still wanted to meet Jeff.
Betsy decided to take matters into her own hands and played matchmaker by introducing us.
Suffice it to say, that night we all went to dinner… my parents included.
Of course I strategically placed myself directly across from Jeff where I proceeded to talk his head off all night. (poor guy!)
Long story short.. Once I graduated a couple of months later, I broke up with my ex and moved to Santa Barbara to be near my family.
In that time period Jeff discovered that I was single and living in California. The next thing you know… he called me and asked me out!
This picture was taken on our second date… exactly one year after our first date.
You will have to stay tuned until next week to find out what happened between dates 1 and 2 and why it took me an entire year to go out with Jeff again…
One thing is for certain… you never would have believed after our 2nd date occurred that we would be married just 5 months later.
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